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Thoughts Inspired By Proverbs 31: A Woman’s Business and Who Doesn’t Tell It To Her

May 21, 2010

Have you ever read those verses in Proverbs 31, you know, the ones before the famous Excellent Woman passage?  The ones about giving poor men wine so they can forget their troubles. Yeah, we don’t hear too much about those ones.

But that’s not what I’m actually going to write about, though this did occur to me while reading those verses.

I’m reading all this and thinking, this is a mother’s advice to her son, who just happens to be in line for the throne.  And as I think ahead to that lengthy discourse on an Excellent Woman, a woman who is definitely preoccupied with going about her business of home, commerce, self-care and relational growth, I realize this:

This is a woman describing a woman’s business. This is not a man telling a woman how to conduct herself and that within her sphere, within her boundaries.

This is a queen; a wise, influential woman with lots of experience behind her sharing her recipe for a woman’s life successfully lived.  And it occurred to me that that was Paul’s prescription, too; for the older women to instruct the younger women on women’s business.  Even Paul didn’t presume to go there.  It wasn’t his business.  Spiritual growth, yes.  Human relationships, yes.  Mutual edification, definitely.  But you don’t find him with advice on how Lydia should or even did conduct her life and business; we just know that the fact that she was doing it well was obvious for all, both men and women, to see.

Which got me thinking: Do you find a man anywhere in Scripture telling a woman how to go about her business? Perhaps there is, but I just can’t think of any.  Which brings up another important point: Neither do you find a woman telling a man how to go about his business! (Edited to add: Of course, after I post this it occurs to me that this very passage is a mother instructing her son how to be king… which could be a totally different post!)

Basically, we all just go about our own business. How novel.

Now, obviously, sharing wisdom and edifying the Body is certainly a Body-wide dynamic.  For the most part, we are called to exhort, edify, reprove, encourage, build up and love everybody.   Very few areas does Paul direct to be handled by gender.  But this is one of them.

To quote one of my favorite books, Boundaries, we are responsible to one another, not for one another.  Thank God.  Because  being responsible for myself is quite enough for me today, thank you.

Daring Mothers

April 17, 2010

Daring Mothers.

This is an awesome post.

If you have a daughter (or a son), check it out.  I think I might look into some of the resources mentioned in the comments.

I Write On Human Hearts

March 15, 2010

This blog has been incredibly silent as of late, and if I actually had a readership, I would apologize for that.  But one of the main reasons for my lack of presence in the blogosphere is one I will not apologize for.  As I read these verses this morning of Paul’s estimation of the eternal effects on his spiritual children, I thought of my own children…

Are we beginning to commend ourselves again? Or do we need, as some, letters of commendation to you or from you?2You are our letter, written in our hearts, known and read by all men;

3being manifested that you are a letter of Christ, cared for by us, written not with ink but with the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of human hearts.

4Such confidence we have through Christ toward God.

5Not that we are adequate in ourselves to consider anything as coming from ourselves, but our adequacy is from God,

6who also made us adequate as servants of a new covenant, not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life.

2  Corinthians 3:1-6

For me, today, it might as well read, “I write not on my blogs kilobytes, but on preschooler’s hearts.”  Because some day, my children will be my letter of commendation in the world…

Every Moment is a Second Chance

February 16, 2010

“If you do well, will not your countenance be lifted up? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door; and its desire is for you, but you must master it.”

Genesis 4:7

This verse has followed me around for a few years now.  It’s pretty much the first verse in the Bible that I can remember coming across that lays out the first plan of attack for getting out of a funk, or even a depression.

And since this verse has been hanging around in my head now for quite some time, you’d think that I’d have it all figured out, all perfected.  But nope.  I keep running into this pesky fact that I’m human and therefore subject to the accompanying human failing as well as a target of who has sent that sin to crouch at my door.

And when that happens, which is all too often, I turn this song up, get off my butt, and choose to ignore the lies that I am beyond His sanctifying grace:

Open up your eyes
Awake, arise
Love like a hand reaches down
And pulls us up from the dirty ground

Now is the time
To step from the dark into the light
Cause you can’t change what you’ve done
But you can choose who you’ll become

Every moment is a second chance
At starting over, at starting over
Move from the past to the present tense
You can start over, start over again

If you feel ashamed
Of the choices that you’ve made
You can be whole again
And return to your innocence

Every moment is a second chance
At starting over, at starting over
Move from the past to the present tense
You can start over, start over again

Yesterday is gone
Today is all you’ve got
You don’t have to be who you’ve been
You can change within
It’s never too late
To start over again

Every moment is a second chance
At starting over, at starting over
Move from the past to the present tense
You can start over, start over again

What I Needed Today

February 3, 2010

He is the Hand to my glove…

Nothing New

December 15, 2009

… except that in the next few weeks of silence here, it will be because I’m away from my computer, not necessarily because I’m super busy, though I’m sure that will be the truth too.

In the mean time, enjoy this:

It really got me thinking…  I’ll share about it when I get back here. 😉


December 5, 2009

It’s that time again!

I chose my Why My Blog Has It’s Name post, because I’ve wanted to revisit this topic but haven’t so far, so I guess this might be as good as it gets!